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Why do the moments that matter most happen when nobody's watching?
I’m starting to realize that real peace shows up in the ordinary.
For me, it's sitting with my mom on a random Tuesday, listening to her voice carry stories I've heard before.
Or walking through a park alone, watching strangers live their secret lives.
Maybe it’s eating noodles at that corner Thai place, tasting them like I've been so hungry.
These moments don't just feel different.
They ARE different.
They're the only moments where you stop trying to be someone and remember that you already are someone.
And once you feel why they hit different, you can't unfeel it.
Where It Showed Up in My Life
One evening in New York, I found myself alone for the first time since arriving.
That’s when I wandered to the park. An old man fed pigeons. A couple argued in whispers. A kid was running around.
And suddenly it felt like peace.
I wasn't networking. I wasn't exploring. I wasn't becoming a "real New Yorker."
I was just... there.
Sitting on a bench and watching life happen.
And in that moment of not performing New York, I finally met it.
What the Wisdom Reveals
Alan Watts once described the moment that changed his life.
Sitting in meditation, fighting his thoughts as usual, something flipped:
"You are not your thoughts watching the world. You are the world watching your thoughts."
Read that again.
He'd spent years in Japan watching monks sit for hours doing "nothing."
The West called it wasteful.
But these monks knew a secret:
When you stop trying to add to yourself, you discover what you already are.
That's why moments with my mom hit different.
When I really listen, I'm not being a good son. I'm awareness itself, experiencing love through her voice.
Watch what happens next time you're fully present. You'll feel it.
I've chased all the highs—travel, parties, achievements.
But every peak demanded a higher one. Every experience left me feeling drained or wanting to chase more.
But presence doesn’t fade.
You can still travel, party, achieve. But when you’re present, you don’t need those things to complete you.
And from that place, you leave feeling light afterwards.
These moments don't add to your life.
They reveal that you ARE life.
How I'm Trying to Live Now
I still enjoy experiences.
But it’s starting to be much more about presence than the experience itself.
And the best part is that I can do that regardless of where I am.
Here are some things I’ve been doing lately:
Conversations: When I'm with someone, I put my phone away.
Food: Going out to lunch or dinner alone and focusing on the food.
Family: When my parents call, I sit. I listen like they're revealing the universe. Maybe they are.
Witnessing: I watch my ceiling and sit outside in the park alone. Random stuff that feels pointless, but it’s so calming.
We're addicted to the big moments. The ones that "count."
But real wealth might be Tuesday at 3pm, watching dust dance in sunlight.
Success might be forgetting you have an outside to impress.
Alan Watts died knowing what most never discover: You don't have a life. You ARE life.
When you stop trying to find yourself, you realize you were never lost.
When you stop chasing peace, you notice you're swimming in it.
And from that infinite, witness-less place, purpose emerges.
I really believe so.
And then you may meditate, converse, write, run, build, read, cook, create etc.
But it feels like peace.
That's where you’re with the infinite.
And the infinite, it turns out, has been with you all along.
