The Lie of Someday

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That one day — when you have the body, the money, the love — you'll finally feel whole.

But that day never comes.

The finish line keeps moving, and you keep chasing, wondering why arrival never brings what it promised.

The truth is harder to accept: there's nowhere to arrive because you're already there.

So, where in your life are you waiting for permission to be who you already are?

I used to think: Once I'm more ripped, I'll be more confident.

So I hit the gym hard, gained weight, got stronger.

But I still felt… not enough.

I pushed further and further until one day I asked myself, "Why am I really lifting?"

Eventually I realized it wasn't about getting jacked — it was about being seen by others.

And no matter how much I lifted, I couldn't lift my own self-worth.

That's when everything had to change.

I was watching Matthew McConaughey's Oscar speech where he says his hero is himself, but 10 years from now.

Everyone applauded this idea of always chasing a better version of yourself.

But here's what most people missed about what he was really saying.

McConaughey wasn't talking about arrival — he was talking about direction.

He knows he'll never catch that future self because it keeps moving forward.

When he gets to where his hero was, his hero is already 10 years ahead again.

It's not a destination, it's a compass.

The mistake we make is thinking that if we keep chasing hard enough, we'll eventually catch up and finally feel complete.

But McConaughey understands something deeper: the chase itself isn't about arriving.

It's about who you become while moving toward something meaningful.

He's not running from who he is now — he's running with who he is now.

The hero 10 years ahead isn't telling him "you're not enough yet."

The hero is saying "keep going, keep growing, but remember to be present in the becoming."

Because the real power isn't in catching your future self.

It's in being fully alive in the pursuit, knowing you're already whole even as you grow.

Am I chasing arrival or choosing alignment?

The shift from arrival to alignment changed everything for me.

Arrival says: "Once I get there, I'll be whole."

Alignment says: "I'm already whole, I'm just choosing what's true to me now."

With fitness, it meant facing my fear of looking too skinny and finally doing the cut I'd always wanted.

Not because I needed to prove anything, but because I was curious what I'd look like at lower body fat.

Once I did it for alignment instead of approval, I felt so much lighter.

You can still go to the gym, build a business, chase your dreams — but do it from wholeness, not hunger.

In business, this meant asking hard questions:

We cut services, let go of clients, and yes, lost money.

But everything felt cleaner, clearer, more true.

In the last year, I've made more progress than the five before it.

Not by grinding harder, but by continuing to remind myself: I already am.

You don't need to arrive to start being who you are.

You just need to come home to yourself.

And from there, whatever you decide to build will be magnetic — because it's coming from truth, not from trying to prove you're enough.