The Art of Letting What's Meant for You Find You

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You know that exhausting feeling of constantly pursuing - the next relationship, the next achievement, the next level of success.

Working harder and harder, but somehow feeling further from what you actually want.

So, what if everything you've been forcing is actually pushing away what's meant for you?

I used to think everything came from force.

If I wanted more money, I needed to work harder. If I wanted better relationships, I needed to put myself out there more.

But recently something shifted.

Last week, I met with a client and noticed I carried myself completely differently.

Not because I prepared more or tried harder, but because I was aligned with where we were headed.

The client could feel it, the conversation flowed beautifully, and we received even more opportunity.

All because I wasn't chasing - I was simply being.

A monk once asked his teacher: "How can I live in this noisy, chaotic world and still find peace?"

The master pointed to a lotus flower rising from muddy water.

"Do you see this flower? It grows in dirt, surrounded by murky water, yet it opens to the sun."

"It doesn't resist the mud or fight the water. It just rises."

"Your job isn't to fight the noise. It's to rise in alignment with what's true."

The lotus doesn't try to clean the pond before it blooms.

It doesn't wait for perfect conditions or chase after clearer water.

It simply aligns with its nature - to rise and open toward the light.

Even surrounded by mud, even in murky conditions, it knows what it is.

And from that knowing, from that alignment, comes its beauty.

The lotus teaches us that your surroundings have nothing to do with your alignment.

Yes, it may be harder in the mud. Yes, the water may be dark.

But you can still rise by following what's true within you.

Not by forcing the mud to become clear water.

Not by chasing after a different pond.

But by being so aligned with your nature that you bloom wherever you are.

Am I trying to force life to meet me, or am I aligning with what's already true?

I'm learning that alignment isn't about doing nothing - it's about acting from depth instead of desperation.

You still show up, you still do the work, but the energy completely shifts.

It's not "I hope this works so I can feel whole."

It becomes "I already feel whole. This is just an expression of that."

When you stop chasing from lack, you start attracting from wholeness.

Recently, I've noticed I don't fully align with many people I used to be close to anymore.

This isn't personal - it's just truth.

You can love someone and still let them go, understanding they were part of a different chapter.

Not everyone will align with where you're going, and that's okay.

The right people, opportunities, and ideas all meet you at your level of alignment.

What doesn't match simply falls away - not as rejection, but as redirection.

Focus on yourself, create from stillness, love from wholeness.

Do the work, but do it from peace, not panic.

Because what's meant for you won't feel like chasing - it will feel like coming home.