What Real Success Actually Is

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You can be rich in money and bankrupt in everything else that matters.

(thanks to Sahil Bloom for the inspiration here)

What if the wealthiest person you know is actually the poorest?

Most people chase financial wealth and ignore everything else, thinking money will solve their problems.

But I've met millionaires who can't sleep, who haven't spoken to their kids in years, whose bodies are falling apart at 40.

They won the game everyone's playing but lost at the game that actually matters.

True richness isn't in your bank account—it's in the balance across five domains: time, financial, physical, social, and mental wealth.

The question isn't how to get rich. It's how to get rich without losing everything else.

For years, I thought success meant grinding harder than everyone else.

Wake up, work, sleep, repeat. My bank account grew, but everything else shrank.

I'd skip workouts because "I didn't have time." I'd cancel on friends because work was "too important."

My body started breaking down. Relationships faded. My mind was constantly racing.

I was winning financially but bankrupting myself everywhere else.

Then I asked myself: How do I balance all five types of wealth?

The answer wasn't what I expected. It wasn't about perfect balance—it was about systems.

You don't need to master all five at once. You need simple systems to maintain the rest while you focus.

When did I realize that being rich in only one area meant being poor overall?

There's an ancient tale about a merchant who devoted his life to accumulating gold.

He worked day and night, barely sleeping, never exercising, pushing away family and friends.

"When I'm rich enough," he'd say, "then I'll have time for everything else."

Years passed. His vault filled with gold, but his body grew weak from neglect.

His children became strangers. His wife left. His mind, sharp for business, grew dull to joy.

One day, he collapsed at his counting table. As he lay dying, surrounded by gold but utterly alone, a monk passed by.

The merchant gasped, "I have more wealth than anyone in the kingdom. Why do I feel so poor?"

The monk looked at the golden coins scattered around the dying man.

"You collected only one type of treasure," he said softly. "But life requires five."

He explained:

Time is your first wealth—without it, nothing else can be enjoyed.

Body is your second—it carries you through life.

Relationships are your third—they give meaning to your days.

Mind is your fourth—it colors every experience.

Money is merely the fifth—useful, but worthless alone.

The merchant wept. "I spent everything earning the least important wealth."

With his last breath, he whispered to his servant: "Tell others... true wealth is not in choosing one treasure, but in gathering all five before time runs out."

The servant, who had watched this tragedy unfold, quit that day.

He became a teacher, sharing the merchant's final wisdom: Systems to maintain all five are worth more than mastery of just one.

Am I building wealth in all areas, or just the one that's easiest to measure?

I've created simple systems for each type of wealth—not to master all five at once, but to maintain them while I focus.

Financial Wealth comes from focused work, not endless grinding.

Physical Wealth requires consistency, not perfection.

Time Wealth is about ruthless prioritization.

Social Wealth needs intentional investment.

Mental Wealth is the foundation.

The secret isn't perfection in all five—it's having systems that keep each one alive.

When I focus on business, my workout system maintains my health.

When I'm with family, my work systems keep things running.

Nothing falls apart because systems hold the foundation.

You don't need to be perfect at all five.

You just need to be intentional about not letting any go to zero.

Because the merchant was right: you can have all the money in the world, but if you're bankrupt in time, health, relationships, and peace, you're the poorest person alive.