What your friends think about you is irrelevant. And I don’t say that as some cold, disconnected thing. I’m saying it from a “what’s in your control” perspective.
Yes, you should support them, you should be there, you should guide them when you can. But when they don’t talk to you, or they don’t support you, or they’re not there for you while you’re building your own thing, or whatever situation it is along those lines… it is irrelevant to you. There’s no need to chase after them, or hate them.
Whether they are your friends or they aren’t your friends makes zero difference in your life. It doesn’t change your direction, it doesn’t change your potential, it doesn’t change what you’re capable of.
All it does is make you start thinking about who the real friends in your life are. And that’s not even something you need to think about. It’s something you just know deep down. And if you don’t know yet, then maybe the realization will dawn on you.
At the end of the day, all you can really do is be present and focus on your goals. Focus on your growth, focus on your aims, focus on the things that actually move your life forward. Who is in your life, who isn’t, who’s meant to stay, who’s meant to go — all of that, you’ll just have a knowing about. You won’t have to chase clarity. It arrives on its own.
Let the friendships fall away if they fall away. Let them stay if they stay. You put in the effort you can. You show up with the heart you have. And beyond that? Let it go. Don’t cling. Don’t try to force conversations or force connections or force people to understand you. Don’t try to make things happen that are clearly not flowing. This isn’t about being cold or pretending you don’t care. It’s about accepting what’s not in your control and choosing to be present anyways.
And as you grow, things are going to change. That’s not something to be scared of, it’s something to expect. It’s part of the process. But don’t obsess over the change itself. Don’t keep checking who’s still around and who isn’t. Don’t fixate on what’s shifting. Instead, focus on you. Focus on your growth. Focus on how you can be better, softer, stronger, wiser.
Because when you move forward with intention, everything around you rearranges the way it’s supposed to. The right people stay without effort. The wrong people fall away without drama. And you’re left with something way more important than all of that: your own presence and evolution.