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You ever notice how the strongest people… let you see their cracks?
The ones who admit they’re still figuring it out.
The leaders who share failures.
The friends who drop the mask.
Meanwhile, you keep your guard up. You keep performing. And wonder why real connection feels so far away.
What if vulnerability isn’t weakness, but the very thing you’re starving for?
Where It Showed Up in My Life
I used to treat every conversation like a chess match. Never show weakness.
Especially with successful people—I’d perform.
I met one mentor I’d admired for years. But instead of telling the truth, I puffed up. Told him what I thought he wanted to hear. He saw right through it. We never spoke again.
Later, burned out from performing, I let my guard down with another founder. Told him I was lost, unsure, and scared I wasn’t good enough.
He paused. Then said: “Finally. Someone being real. Let me introduce you to 3 people who can help.”
That’s when I got it. My armor wasn’t protection, it was a prison.
I was blocking the very support I craved.
What the Wisdom Reveals
In a coastal village, a fisherman named Ben always gave away his extra fish. No trade. Just trust.
One day, a wealthy outsider arrived. He called Ben a fool.
“You’re wasting your wealth. Hoard your catch. Lock it up.”
Ben smiled. “The sea gives enough. I take what I need. I share what I can.”
Then came the storm.
The outsider’s massive boat, heavy with hoarded fish, sank.
His stockpile rotted. His locks meant nothing.
Ben’s humble boat, cared for by the village, survived.
His neighbors helped him rebuild. They shared their fish until everyone was whole again.
The outsider asked, “How did you make it through?”
Ben replied:
“You built walls. I built bridges. The storm came for both of us. Only one of us wasn’t alone.”
How I'm Trying to Live Now
I started leading with truth. Not strength, not status. Just… “Here’s where I’m at.”
Suddenly, people opened up. Opportunities flowed in. Not because I impressed them—because I connected with them.
Here’s what I learned:
Admitting you don’t know → invites real guidance
Sharing your struggles → reveals shared humanity
Owning your dreams and fears → unlocks real trust
And it’s not just about pouring your heart out.
It’s also about knowing who to pour into.
Vulnerability without boundaries is chaos.
But with the right boundaries, it’s power.
Now I practice what I call radical openness:
Start emails with: "I'm struggling with..."
Ask for help without guilt
Share both wins and wounds
Protect your peace without building walls
Your armor might feel safe, but it also repels the people meant to walk beside you.
Your mask might attract attention, but it’ll never attract the ones who truly see you.
So try this:
In just one conversation tomorrow, be real.
Share one thing that scares you. Or excites you. Or breaks your heart.
You don’t need to spill everything. Just loosen the grip.
Because the storm comes for all of us eventually.
And when it does?
It’s not your defenses that will save you.
It’s your connections, your honesty and your bridges.
Walls keep you safe.
But they also keep you alone.
And now, you get to choose.
